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Alcoholics Anonymous and the TABOO of the GEOGRAPHIC change.

 

 

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Geographical Cure (a.k.a Geographic ):
An effort to cure our alcoholism by getting a ‘fresh start’ in a new location. It doesn’t work. There is a saying around AA, ‘Wherever you go, there you are.’

I remember having about five years sober in AA and approaching my sponsor for guidance. I had done well and established a very successful business. In my success I started to look at property in an idyllic location where my family and I had always wanted to live. I had saved enough money to buy a house there for cash. My wife and I had picked out a house and were ready to make our move. Being a good AA I decided to check with my spiritual advisor and sponsor first. Much to my disappointment, he told me that it was dangerous for me to buy this house and move so far from my support group. Clearly I was brainwashed; AA and my sponsor had become my lifeline. I had such a lack of confidence in myself from working the AA program and listening to the rhetoric of the group that I was unable to stand on my own two feet. I was completely dependent on the program and fellowship. As someone who has disconnected from AA, I can look back and see what a shame this is. I see now that AA did not give me power but that it completely crippled me. I have not been living my own life but have been living the lives of others. I remember hearing how bad it was to move away from a persons AA group but never recall hearing anyone share about experiencing a move in which they drank. Members would share that if an alcoholic were to move away from their group they would drink. They would even share that subconciously it was probably an underlying reason for the move. Remember, the great obsession of every alcoholic is to drink normally.

Another factor that plays into the AA’s management of the geographic move is the God implication. Whether implied or by direction the AA seems to rely heavily on the notion that God will do for the alcoholic what he cannot do for himself. Live and let live and let go and let God would seem to directly conflict with any sponsors direction regarding a geographic change, unless of course the AA sponsor is a direct channel from God.

Bottom line; what business does any AA have meddling with the personal life choices and goals of anyone who wanders in their door?  Have you been incapacitated by a sponsor who told you not to make a geographic change?  Were you pressured to stay in your community?  This may be the place to talk about it and share opposing viewpoints so that those who are still crippled by AA can gain insight and make their own decisions.

The 12-Steps Inn: Where Brains Check In, But They Don’t Check Out

Martha sent us a link to this little gem from the 12-Steps Inn. God help us all….

Your Sponsor And Your Therapist.

Your sponsor isn’t all that interested in the reasons you drank.

Your therapist thinks your root problem is your lack of self-esteem, negative self-image, and your poor self- concept.
Your sponsor thinks your problem is a 3-letter word with no hyphens.

Your therapist wants you to pamper your ‘inner child.’
Your sponsor thinks it ought to be spanked.

Your therapist thinks your parents and others are to blame
Your sponsor thinks your inventory should be about you, not your parents.

Your therapist thinks you should confront your parents and others
Your sponsor tells you to make amends to them.

Your therapist wants you to find ‘closure.’
The only time your sponsor uses the word ‘closure’ is before the word ‘mouth.’

Your therapist thinks you should put up ‘boundaries.’
Your sponsor thinks ‘boundaries’ are things you need to take down.

Your therapist wants you to love yourself first.
Your sponsor wants you to love others first.

Your therapist prescribes care-taking and medication.
Your sponsor prescribes prayer making and meditation.

Your therapist wants you to learn ‘anger management skills.’
Your sponsor thinks ‘anger management skills’ are numbered 1,2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12.

Now that you haven’t had a drink in six months, your therapist thinks you should make a list of your goals and objectives for the next five years, starting with finishing up that college degree.
Your sponsor thinks you should start today by cleaning the coffee pots, helping him carry a heavy box of literature to the jail, and making your bed.

Your sponsor won’t lose his license to practice if he talks about God

Pick A New Name For Freedom House

In the latest update on the continuing saga of Freedom House, the slumshack in Kalispell, Montana that is running under the guise of a rehab facility; the powers in charge have decided to take the name away. It also appears that the last group of felons in charge of the place are no longer involved in the day-to-day operations. This shouldn’t come as too much of shock, as it is difficult to run a hell hole like this from jail, which is where former board President, Randall Marr, has been rotting for the past couple of months.

I’ve no doubt that the landlords and Bill Hawk, the current resident in charge, are trolling the rooms of the local AA chapters to find suitable replacements. The last board, which consisted of a hooker, a thief and a pedophile – is a going to be a tough act to follow.

The first thing the new board will have to do is pick a new name this cuckoo’s nest. I thought that we might be able to help them out with a few suggestions of our own. Any thoughts?

DUI School

One of our readers, JR Harris, has put together a blog with some advice on surviving DUI school. It’s full of all kinds of useful tips on what to do, and what not to do. Check it out.

Meet Francine Stone: Freedom House Secretary

I know, I know…you can’t get enough of our ongoing series on Freedom House in Kalispell, Montana – and since we are here to placate our target audience of serenityless resentillians, we figured, “what the hell, let’s meet the Freedom House board of directors!”

Today, we’re profiling Francine Stone, aka inmate #3003107. She bears a striking resemblance to Weird Al Yankovic after three-day drunk, with the only discernible difference being the tattoo of a pit bull that Francine has on her left shoulder. Her hobbies include meditating, serenity searching, and obstructing justice. Currently a resident of Montana, Francine has also lived in California, where she was also in trouble with the law. Hey, let’s play a game! Whatcha think she was busted for in Oakland? I’ll send out a complimentary amends letter for anyone guesses correctly.

In another development, Randall Marr was sprung from the big house last night. I hope he doesn’t celebrate by tying one on. I hear he’s an angry drunk.

Meet Randall Marr

Meet Randall Marr. He is the board president of “Freedom House”, a sober living home we posted about here yesterday. DeConstructor found that Randall has his very own web page, so I decided we would highlight it here. It makes me wonder what the rest of the board consists of, if this is the guy they elected to run the show.

Anonymity

Anonymity – a cornerstone of the AA program, which is steadfastly protected, unless breaking it will serve a greater purpose for an individual AA, or AA as a whole – in which case it is dropped like a bad habit.

Among the most important and revered traditions of AA is the practice of anonymity. To any reasonable person it should seem like a good idea, and on its surface, it is — but like with all things AA, they have taken this simple concept, bastardized its meaning, and nefariously use it in ways ranging from the exploitation of others for the greater good of the organization, to an excuse for absolving themselves of accountability. Like their other traditions, anonymity is used selectively, and only when it is of benefit to a member or the group; but it is quickly tossed aside when their AA affiliation will help them in some way. Take a look: Continue reading Anonymity

Glenn Beck and AA: A Perfect Fit


Kathleen Parker of The Washington Post had an interesting take on Glenn Beck’s gathering of lunatics in Washington D.C. last week. My name is Glenn Beck, and I need help:

Beck’s “Restoring Honor” gathering on the Mall was right out of the Alcoholics Anonymous playbook. It was a 12-step program distilled to a few key words, all lifted from a prayer delivered from the Lincoln Memorial: healing, recovery and restoration.

Saturday’s Beckapalooza was yet another step in Beck’s own personal journey of recovery. He may as well have greeted the crowd of his fellow disaffected with:

“Hi. My name is Glenn, and I’m messed up.”

My tolerance for delusion has been fairly low lately, so I did not catch any coverage of Beck’s wingnut gathering, but I’ve seen enough of Glenn Beck (a few minutes is enough, really), to have thought of this comparison myself. I don’t blame Alcoholics Anonymous for Beck’s delusion, as I am sure he was like this before he ever entered the program, but he is the perfect fit an outfit like AA.

She goes on:

These may be random quotes, but they can’t be considered isolated or out of context. For Beck, addiction has been a defining part of his life, and recovery is a process inseparable from the Glenn Beck Program. His emotional, public breakdowns are replicated in AA meetings in towns and cities every day.

Taking others along for the ride, a.k.a. evangelism, is also part of the cure. The healed often cannot remain healed without helping others find their way. Beck, who vaulted from radio host to political-televangelist, now has taken another step in his ascendancy — to national crusader for faith, hope and charity.

Of course, one cannot write an editorial like this one without the AA brethren coming out in force to cry ‘foul’, and whether they were supportive of Beck, or wanting to disassociate themselves from this serenity loon, the comments were right out of the AA playbook. Here, Doug Feaver highlights a few, including these gems:

“Kathleen – was the content of Beck’s message upsetting? Where would the addict be without the 12 steps and adherence to a higher power? America might try it – We couldn’t do any worse in our self centeredness.”

and

“Astute and accurate. Beck is a “dry drunk” pontificating on the barroom stool of national TV. Parker is perhaps the most reliable journalist observer whose Republican credentials verify her ability to see reality, beyond mere partisan stridency.”

and

“He violates virtually every tenet of AA and he is a dry drunk. We prefer our anonymity. If you can’t improve on silence, be quiet. A Friend of Bill W.”

Seriously?

I have no idea how this piece of propaganda found its way to an actual news source, but check this out:

85% Success Rate in Sober Living Homes

I would be interested to see how these jackasses quantify “success”.

Daniel Gelinas is an AAshole

Daniel Gelinas is a murderer and a proud member of Alcoholics Anonymous. He killed a guy back in ’83, then got out of jail, broke his parole conditions, and found himself back in the slammer. Now, along with the support of his AA sponsor, he is back out on the street. But hey, there’s no need to worry, ‘cuz he’s got it all figured out:

“I am going to get up in the morning, take a shower, go to work, come home and go to AA,” he told the board. He said his friends were mostly his contacts within AA.

I’m setting the over/under for his going back to the slammer at ten months.