Due to the fact that our usernames were stupid, FTG and I have changed our usernames to our actual names. We’re still the same people.
FTG = Ilse
MA = Mark
Study this, and we’ll test you all on it in the near future.
One of our AA trolls made the following two quotes, each one on a separate forum. It made me chuckle seeing both of these next to each other.
“…Sponsoring was a very difficult process for me. Staying out of the way.
The only genuine unconditional prayer I could think of to say for others when I first began coming around was, “Gods Will Not Ours Be Done”. But then I would have to assume I knew Gods Will for everyone. I don’t.
Today, I don’t pray much for others, I try at times but then I can see this is between God and them. I just pray for his guidance for me. This seems to be enough to help me get back on the path.”
“I don’t know if God does any of this because I am a Atheist.”
Here is an old episode of The Pink Panther cartoon titled “Pink Pajamas.” It’s about a drunk who shows up at home and finds a pink panther in his bed. At about the four and a half minute mark, he decides that he’s sick and tired of being sick and tired:
Wendy is a stepper down under, and she has a problem. She recently moved, and she’s dealing with a lot of crazy in her new group. So, she came to the good people at Sober Recovery for some advice. The whole post is a nice summary of a typical AA experience. Below are the last couple of paragraphs, which cover a lot of the lunacy in a short few sentences: You’ve got your 13th stepping, your suicide, your affirmation that she will be in jail were it not for AA, and a crazy AA buddy.
The responses are interesting, too. There is a lot of subtext to them, including Boleo’s implication that those non-fundie, “back-slapping” groups aren’t really AA, and CarolD’s suggestion that God put her in this situation for a reason – with that reason being to start up her own group. Shockingly, nobody has suggested she get away from these nutbags.
And finally, there is a woman here I’ve begun to make friends with, a gay woman who is very strong from the floor, “men are for men and women are for women and the 13th Step” in terms of sponsoship and suppport – and she’s very strident because her last sponsee suicided shortly before I came here, partly due to the 13th Step from a guy . But she’s started to make it clear she likes me “that way”. That wouldn’t worry me so much – I’d just give it to her straight (excuse the pun). But our phone calls are endless diatribue of what her male sponsee is or isn’t doing and it’s truly, in my view, “doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result” – ie, he calls her at 6pm everynight and it’s the same old thing. But SHE TAKES THE CALLS, and at 23 years sober she won’t do the Steps and seek psych help for some genuinely awful stuff that’s happened in her life. So I’ve had to make a major boundary with her, even though she scares me. (She’s done hard prison time – a YET for me)
So, while I know this is just the fabric of AA, we’re all cracked in our own special way, I’d just LOVE a period of quiet when I don’t have to deal with these exhausting dynamics. I work my arse off in AA, with my psychiatrist and psychologist and on my spiritual journey and I refuse to have anyone derail me. But it’s all been a bit of a shock to the system.
“He was part of it, but he was not it.”
– Greg Alex. Director of the New Hope Recovery Center. Referring to the recent outing of
Dr.David Scratchley, as a fraud.
“…Supervised by Dr. David Scratchley, Ph.D., Clinical Psychologist and renowned Addictionologist, our recovery and relapse prevention program addresses the physiology, psychology, and sociology of addiction.”
– From the New Hope Recovery Center website. This line has since been changed to “…Founded by Executive Director Gregory K. Alex, M.A., C.D.C.
This is a nice spin Mr. Alex is putting on this situation. Rigorous honesty™ allows for “supervised” to be changed to “part of.” Let’s apply the same logic to other things:
The fact of the matter is that Greg Alex handed the keys to the store to someone with no credentials, and he did not perform a proper background check. He also has a no drug test policy for his employees, which is astounding, considering the fact that recovering™ drug addicts permeate this industry (and would have come in handy in this situation, as it seems
Doctor Mr. Scratchley was, along with being a likely pedophile, was also a crack smoker).
Alex is quoted as saying, “the program goes on.” What does that mean? Does it go on as it did before, without proper background checks and drug screening of employees? Are they going to review the backgrounds of their current employees, and subject them to drug screening? What is Greg Alex’ background? Is the Matt Talbot Center going to operate with any transparency going forward, or are they going to continue as they are now, by minimizing the impact Scratchley had on their operation, and going about business as usual? Who is going to hold himself or herself accountable for hiring this asshat?
These are legitimate questions for an operation that has shown itself to be inept, enjoys tax exempt status, receives public funding and solicits for donations under the guise that they are a “Christian” (and therefor moral and ethical) organization. People with something to hide, hide. Greg Alex needs to come out of his troll hole and operate with at least some modicum of integrity.
In keeping with this week’s theme of parenting superstars, I give you Shayean Blackmon.
Babysitters can expensive and unreliable, so Shayean decided on an alternate form of child-care: She punched the baby in the face and abandoned it in a park:
22-year-old Shayean Blackmon decided to spend her day yesterday drinking in a park in Highland Park, Michigan. Think of it as a little post-Mother’s Day present to herself. But it seems that getting hammered and caring for her 3-month-old daughter was too much multitasking…
According to witnesses, Blackmon decided to punch her baby in the face, then walk away, leaving her in the park.
The little girl was rescued by someone women who were also at the park. When the story aired on TV, the child’s grandfather, Henry Bowles, recognized the little girl and went to retrieve her.
Not to worry, though. Her problem is solved. She’s been mandated to AA. Of course.
“I’m a good mommy. I’m an alcoholic, but I’m a good mommy.”
Joan and Ward Cleaver they ain’t….
“…The Vigils rolled into a Las Vegas, New Mexico Red Lobster recently, their five-month-old daughter in tow. The young family was seated at one of the fine eatery’s comfy booths and prepared themselves for a mighty feast.Soon, though, restaurant employees realized something was terribly awry. The Vigils appeared to be cataclysmically intoxicated, so-much-so workers observed them repeatedly “passing out” at the table and hardly able to speak.When a server refused to ring in the Vigil’s order for more spirits, the denial didn’t appear to make a dent in the couple’s collective buzz. Linda Vigil was soon spotted shaking and dangling the baby by the arms, trying to make her dance as proud papa looked on with an approving, albeit chemical-stained, smile.Once the couple had soaked up enough of the chain restaurant’s ambience, they got ready to leave. It was at that juncture when concerned Red Lobster’s workers observed the wobbly parents toting the child in her car seat as it swung and bumped into chairs, doors and walls.Red Lobster staff offered to call a cab for the couple, but that gesture was shot down.A waitress then summoned authorities.Officers arrived in the restaurant parking lot to find the Vigils severely FUBRed. They also found Steven Vigil trying to drive off in a red Ford Mustang that had been reported stolen in late May.Steven told police he had borrowed the vehicle from an Alcoholics Anonymous buddy. He added that he and his buddy had recently got into a spat and that was likely why his AA chum had now reported the car thieved….”
“…For instance, last week, I shared that in addition to AA, and all of the wonderful people there, that my therapist had also been another very helpful pillar of support. After that, the next five people who shared all went on to have something or other negative to say about therapists and therapy in general, as if I had stepped out of an AA meeting and into a Scientology group. It was bizarre, as I meant no disrespect. It was instructive in how quickly the group reacted to reject the incursion of an idea that they clearly did not want to gain general credence among the members: it was as if an outside force had attacked, and they mobilized against it. It was a very striking example of group dynamics, and, to that extent, a learning experience….”
– HuskyPup, an AA. Commenting in the Sober Recovery forum.
David S. IV, an AA member in Washington, needs a day planner. He showed up late for a meeting at the New Song Worship Center for the second time in two days. The second time was on Sunday morning, in the middle of a church service, after a high-speed chase in which he drove in excess of 115 miles per hour:
David Thomas Sumner IV apparently needed to repent.
The 80-member congregation of the New Song Worship Center in Lexington was just beginning Sunday morning’s service when Sumner appeared in the church’s doorway. He shouted as he rushed down the aisle, then lay face down at the feet of pastor Marv Kasemeier, who was standing near the pulpit.
Sumner was followed by a Washington State Patrol trooper, who handcuffed him and lead him out of the church.
Authorities say Sumner, 41, of Kelso led a trooper on a high-speed chase that hit 116 mph on Interstate 5, then raced up West Side Highway and finally dashed up Aaron Drive at the north end of Lexington.
A police report said Trooper Zachary Casey clocked Sumner’s northbound car at 94 mph on I-5 near the Longview Wye. Sumner sped away when Casey tried to pull him over, according to the report.
Police said Sumner was swerving through all three lanes of traffic and passing cars on both shoulders. Casey said he saw at least 50 near collisions between Sumner’s car and other drivers. Casey said he backed off, fearing the pursuit would put other drivers in danger. He said frightened motorists jerked their cars to the shoulder as Sumner passed, opening up a wide lane for him to again take up the chase.
Sumner crossed the Lexington Bridge at Sparks Drive, according to the report, then turned north on Westside Highway and reached speeds of at least 90 mph in a 35 mph zone as he raced past Riverside Park and swerved onto Aaron Drive, where the New Song church is located.
From a second article:
Sumner was carrying a container that looked like an ice bucket. He ran to a storage area near the church pulpit, stashed the container, and then fell at Kasemeier’s feet.
A short time later, a state trooper walked in and handcuffed him.
“Mr. Sumner said I submit to a higher power, I just need to do this now and I came to the church,” said Kasemeier