Archive for 5 October 2011

I was there…

Quote of the day, from a Salon post, “What my childhood bully taught me

“I want to apologize for all the bullying back in school,” he said.

I’d like to say I was stunned. But we both knew about 12-step recovery programs. He was performing the Ninth Step: “Made direct amends to such people [we had harmed] wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others.”

I accepted his apology, and thanked him for making amends. And I owned my share in those terrible events so long ago.

That’s right. Although I was bullied, I certainly played a part — I was there. Of course, I can’t expect that the boy I was would react with the knowledge I’ve gained in manhood. But I can pass along what I know now to help others who are going through similar experiences. In reality, the biggest reason I got bullied — and I know many people won’t want to hear this, but it’s a Male Truth — is that I didn’t fight back.


School Superintendent’s 6th DUI

So, this school superintendent is on his 6th DUI, and the judge orders him to 3 AA meetings a week, which he must drive out of town to attend.

Mandating AA for DUI is a serious problem, beyond its unconstitutionality. There is no proof that forced Alcoholics Anonymous has had a positive impact on drunk driving rates. And considering the fact that AA promotes binge relapse, I bet any study would show that mandated AA increases DUI recidivism.  The affiliation between the courts and AA has been established long enough that such a study should have taken place already.

How is it possible that so many people don’t see a problem teaching drunk drivers that they are powerless over their behavior after the first drink? Why do courts assume that drunk driving is an alcoholism problem and not a behavioral problem?


The Non-Randomness of Addiction

Go read “The Addictive Personality and the Non-Randomness of Addiction” by Rob Arthur on his blog, Narco Polo.